3 Sneaky Habits that are Keeping You from Becoming Successful

Sneaky Habits that are Keeping You from Becoming Successful

Sneaky Habits that are Keeping You from Becoming Successful


Article by Nikka Karli
Photo Credit: Dasha & Mari
Magazine: Issue #29

Have you ever wondered why it seems to be so easy for some people to achieve unparalleled levels of love, abundance, and success?

And yet…

It all seems to be completely intangible for you, no matter how hard you try to chase down your dreams. And, by the way, those dreams? They actually seem to be running away from you. As if the harder you try, the further away they get.

You’re actually starting to take it personally.

As in, maybe there’s something wrong with you. Something that makes success nothing more than a whimsical fancy meant for the throngs of other people on this planet, but not you. Never you.

Well, first things first, you are not alone. Even more good news? I’m here to help you step into the greatness that has always seemed so utterly elusive. Until now. (Stick with me, kid. I think you’re going to like this.)

Here are 3 unconscious habits that might be holding you back from creating the life you truly want (and what you might want to do instead):

1 :: You truly believe that you and Shonda Rhimes are destined to be besties (AKA: You spend more time watching other people be gladiators than actually becoming one yourself)-

If you want to actually become a Creator, a Doer, and not just a Dreamer, you have to focus. And focus means less time numbing yourself out to your current reality.  Which, in turn, means you need to give up your Olivia addiction.  Blasphemy, I know.  But hear me out.

Successful people (millionaires, elite athletes, world changers) spend their time creating things that help solve other people’s problems.  They do not spend all of their time watching fake problems on (albeit highly entertaining) television shows.

Does this mean you have to cancel your subscription to Netflix right this moment? Not at all. But it does mean that if you want to achieve your goals, it is imperative that you begin paying close attention to how you’re choosing to spend your time and energy.  

Ask yourself this: Are you creating your life or are you watching other people act out theirs?

2 :: The last thing you read for self-development was the Highlights for Children magazine at your kid’s dentist appointment (AKA: You have an Amazon book queue 10 miles long that’s sucking up dust faster than a top-of-the-line Dyson)-

Have you ever said to a friend that you love to read but you simply don’t have the time?  Well, Gorgeous, I have news for you.  Successful people make the time.

Expanding your beliefs and thought patterns will absolutely transform the way you show up in your life. And this change requires knowledge, reflection, and implementation.  If you want to serve- to create a global platform for change- it begins with the information and concepts that you feed your mind.

If you have time to get on Facebook, you have time to pick up a book (or a Kindle) and start nourishing the creative space that will allow you to bring your dreams to fruition.

3 :: Your goals see about as much action as a 15-year-old boy in any locker room around the world lying to his friends about how he hooked up with that gorgeous, slightly older Canadian chick he met on his family’s summer vacation (AKA: You’re all talk, heavy breathing, fumbling zippers… and no follow-through)-

You want to make a resounding impact in our world? You want amazing connection and intimacy in all of your relationships? You want the freedom to live life on your own terms? Well, Darlin, it begins with your ability to not only come up with amazing ideas but to actually do something about them.

This is you putting your dreams on the line. This is you saying no to your fears and yes to your results. This- THIS- is how you succeed. In business. In love. In health. In prosperity. In life.

You absolutely must learn how to follow through on the things that you say you want. No more starting and stopping. No more listening to other people’s opinions of how you should live your life. No more succumbing to resistance. Your commitment cannot be negotiable. The life of your dreams depends on it.

Well, Love, that’s it in a paradigm-shifting, momentum-building, world-igniting nutshell. 3 simple things that can change your future. So. What will you decide? To watch or live? To give in or commit?

I’m pretty sure I know the answer. Here’s to becoming your own gladiator.

It’s a Sign is a compilation of self-improvement articles written by entrepreneurs seeking to bring holistic solutions to everyday problems. Read more articles from this feature.

Nikka Karli, The Embodiment Expert (Founder of Turned On Life™) is a writer, yoga teacher, and life and business coach. She consults with Creative Visionaries who want to create a thriving, location-independent business, guiding them to embody the person they need to become in order to create the life they desire.

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