You are glorious and powerful beyond measure, and created for greatness by virtue of being a female. But is that how you view yourself? If not, perhaps you have experienced patriarchal poisoning -- add abuse, and the damage is intense. This patriarchal culture FEARS our mystical powers.
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Read MoreChange Your Reality With the World's Most Powerful 2 Words
CHANGE YOUR REALITY WITH THE WORLD’S MOST
POWERFUL 2 WORDS
Change Your Reality
Article by Priscilla Wainwright
Photo Credit: Victor of Valencia
Magazine: Issue #17
All human life operates according to these 2 words. They control your brain and thought, both conscious and unconscious, whether you like it or not! So, these 2 words control you. They can MAKE or BREAK you: soar you to the heights or plunge you to the depths.
In the late 1800’s, the philosopher Vaihinger founded a life philosophy on these 2 words. They became the centerpiece of psychiatrist Alfred Adler’s system of Individual Psychology. Henry Ford got it right in his famous quote, “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right.”
You’ve waited long enough! Here they are: 'AS IF'. Our brains are wired according to this principle, “We always act as if what we believe is true.” Psychologist Harold Mosak said, “Life’s all fiction. Which fiction do you wish to believe?”
He’s right, you know. We all have belief systems that develop early in life that serve as filters through which we process and interpret everything we experience. Therefore, we never experience “reality” as it actually is. It becomes for us what we subconsciously make it out to be. We’re not consciously aware that we’re doing this, so we think and act that what we perceive our experience to be is the actual reality, the real truth.
Now, here’s the kicker: Whatever we have learned, we can unlearn!
You want a new reality? Change your beliefs! Doing so will give you more control over your life. You will consciously and subconsciously act in new ways that will create a new “reality” and give you different results.
Admittedly, this is easier said than done, but it is eminently doable. You start by creating new positive power statements. Write them out. Then live each moment inside those statements. Start acting “AS IF” they are true. Then you will come to believe them.
How to Avoid Worthless Fights - The Relationship Saving Question
HOW TO AVOID WORTHLESS FIGHTS –
THE RELATIONSHIP-SAVING QUESTION
How to Avoid Worthless Fights
Article by Priscilla Wainwright
Photo Credit: Dasha & Mari
Magazine: Issue #28
Ever get into an argument with your spouse, partner, or friend in which each of you came from a different side of an issue? Did this argument slide into a fight? And if it did, how long did the fight last, and what was the aftermath?
You know what I’m talking about. We’ve all been there, perhaps all too often. You see the situation one way, and it’s very clear to you that you are right! What’s more, the “truth” seems so obvious to you. It’s as if the truth is standing 10 feet tall with a huge capital “T” in the middle of the room, so obvious that even a blind person could see it.
The truth is so clear, so obvious. Yet the other person still disagrees! “Golly-Bum”, you think, “How can you be so dense? (or substitute “dumb”, “stupid”, or “stubborn”). Maybe you’ve actually said those words to them.
Yet your partner still doesn’t “get it”. Your frustration mounts. You’re making no headway. Steam is building between your ears. Then you throw the fireball: “You’re wrong!” you shout. Now you’re into an emotional battle. This ain’t gonna end pretty.
These types of fights can have tragic outcomes. I’ve had clients who reported that it got physical, or they didn’t speak to each other for a week, or the police were called. While those outcomes are atypically severe, these types of fights leave scars afterward that are not easily healed. They can create lasting damage, and if they happen frequently enough, they can destroy your relationship.
Woohoo! There is a way to avoid these types of fights completely.
There is one simple question no one thinks to ask, that – if asked – can turn the whole situation down a more healthy path.
Here it is: When you sense your discussion is going down the path of division and anger, stop and ask, “I’m not sure I understand where you’re coming from. What led you to that conclusion?”
This question changes everything. It turns you both from a path to battle to one of inquiry.
It also leads to understanding. As the other person answers, you get to see her or his logic stream. You still may not agree, but you gain insight into how she or he interpreted the situation and put the pieces together in their head. You also may discover that the “truth” is not always so clear cut, and you may find there are other valid interpretations.
As long as you both stay in discussion mode and don’t degenerate to fighting, there’s hope. You still may not agree, but it becomes easier to negotiate a conclusion or action plan. You may find that you agree to disagree. The main payoff? You still remain friends!
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It's Time to Makeover Your To-Do List
Makeover Your To-Do List
IT'S TIME TO MAKEOVER YOUR TO-DO LIST
Article by Priscilla Wainwright
Photo Credit: Nancy Schoenmakers
Magazine: Issue #27
Most of us have to-do lists of some kind or another. Maybe it’s a goal list or activity list on your work planner. Perhaps it’s a tick-list of things you want to get done around the house or other personal things.
Are you a “list person”? Many of us are. I have a girlfriend who is so organized, she has a “list of lists”. She’s a human dynamo, but she still grouses to me that she hasn’t got enough time to get it all done. While she won’t admit it, she sees her life as one interruption after another. Do you fall into that category by any chance?
Do you have any time or activity on your list for your personal enjoyment, or development of a pleasurable nature? How about time for reflection or some other quiet time or Spiritual practice?
We women can be gluttons for doing, serving, and multitasking. (Supposedly we typically do the latter better than men.) I’m sure you’ve heard the old saw, “Men work from sun to sun; women’s work is never done.” This is often so true. Finish a hard day at work, come home, and who’s gotta cook, clean, take care of the kids? This can all become very draining after a while.
Proper self-care is critical to your physical, mental, and spiritual health. Are you factoring personal nourishment (other than meals!) into your daily schedule? Every athlete knows that constant practice can lead to burnout and that periods of relaxation, especially prior to a match, improve performance.
Look over your to-do list and your daily schedule. See where you can insert a calming, relaxing practice, or maybe a gym workout. That ultimately will refresh you as well. Whatever you choose, do something that will lift your spirit.
If you’re new to this, you might need to deal with guilt or self-imposed demands, or felt pressure to accomplish. Determine a practice that you can live with over time, and commit to stick with it for 30 days at least. By then, it should be a habit, and you will find new levels of energy.
Go for it, Tigress. You’re worth it!
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Feminism in Business: It's No Longer About the Men
Feminism in Business
FEMINISM IN BUSINESS: IT'S NO LONGER ABOUT THE MEN
Article by Priscilla Wainwright
Photo Credit: Fabiola Zamora
Magazine: Issue #24
“The Only Alternative to Being a Feminist is Being a Masochist.” – Gloria Steinem
The need for a Feminist Movement has never been greater. Hilary Clinton recently said, “The way women are treated today is more subtle, but no less damaging.”
Today, True Feminism is not about fighting for equality with men. True, there are still some issues yet to be won, such as the pay gap between men and women for the same work.
Today, the main thrust must be Healing and Reclamation.
True Feminism today, in this Millennium of the Woman, involves as much inner work as outer work.
Our main task is to recognize the wounding from the Patriarchal culture, heal those wounds and reclaim our Inner Tigress: to love, honor and fully embrace the true beauty and glory of the Feminine within us, take back our true female power and courage and start living our personal Authentic Truth WITHOUT shame, doubt, or apology.
We need to develop the courage to stop playing servile and limiting roles that hold us back and relegate us to 2nd class citizens. We need to stop putting ourselves down and start living and respecting ourselves magnificently. Only then will we stop playing small and get the full honor and respect from others that we desire and deserve.
Our task, then, is to transcend our culture and reform it, to eliminate gender bias and inequity. If you experience or witness ant sexist behavior, call ‘em out on it! Being quiet is tacit approval.
That task is huge, but it can be done if we women all work together. But first, we as individuals must come forth strong in our feminine power and let the world see that we are every person’s equal and NO ONE’S FOOL OR TOY. We’re EQUALS, not SEQUELS!
We must also stop our relentless competition with other women, restore harmony, and support and elevate each other in the process of mutual healing and transcendence.
Then and only then can we heal the world, using our Feminine tools, skills and powers.
Nadine Newlight said, “The Future is Female”.
The Dalai Lama said, “The World will be saved by the Western Woman”.
He is so right, but before we can save the world, we must each first save ourselves. Only then can we come together collectively to maximize our Feminine Power for good.
It is the mission of InnerTigress.com to be a powerful voice and essential resource in the healing and transformation of individuals and the world. At www.InnerTigress.com, you will lovingly receive the support you need.
Rise Up and ROAR!
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How to Release and Reverse Negative Beliefs
HOW TO RELEASE AND REVERSE NEGATIVE BELIEFS
Article by Priscilla Wainwright
Photo Credit: Michelle Kim
Magazine: Issue #18
Release and Reverse Negative Beliefs
Whatever is holding you back and causing you emotional pain is rooted in your beliefs that you have absorbed over the years. These are fiction, the creation of your false self, but you have accepted them as reality. Therefore, you probably haven’t seriously questioned them.
Now is the time to throw them out and create a new, powerful, positive belief system. We all hold beliefs about 3 major categories: Self, Others, and Life/World/Universe.
Take 3 sheets of paper. Label one “Self”, the next “Others”, and the third “Life”. Write down on the appropriate paper all the negative beliefs you can think of that you hold about each of these categories.
When that is completed, take 3 new sheets of paper. Label each as above. For each negative belief, write on the new paper a positive opposite, corrective belief. You don’t have to believe these positive beliefs right now. Just do it. If you need help, review the Universal Truth articles on www.InnerTigress.com and the positive counter-statements on the Symptom List on the home page.
Example:
Negative:
I am worthless.
People are evil & conniving.
The world doesn’t care about me or my ideas.
Positive:
I am of priceless value & worth.
People are basically good at heart & generous.
The world is waiting for what I have to offer.
Once you have created your list of positive beliefs, start every day by reading your list. Then show up and start acting every day inside those new beliefs. Act as if they are true. Stick with this and soon you’ll see new results and the new beliefs will take hold. Spend a few moments each morning visualizing yourself as glorious and powerful, acting from these new beliefs.
Shred, burn, or otherwise destroy the lists of negative beliefs. You might wish to create a little ritual around their destruction.
Perhaps light a candle, dress up in your prettiest outfit, go outside in nature, or in a safe place at home and burn the lists. At the same time, tell yourself that you are a new creation, glorious and powerful beyond measure. Maybe say a prayer, have a celebratory meal and/or drink. Maybe have a close girlfriend participate with you. Whatever. Have fun, Tigress.
Rise Up and ROAR! “The old has passed away. All has become new.” – St. Paul
